Some Thoughts On National Coming Out Day
I’ve been back and forth all day on whether or not to write something for National Coming Out Day. If I’m being honest, I didn’t feel like dealing with the Internet haters so I put it off. Then I got a DM at about 10:30 and my whole attitude changed. I’m not going to tell my coming out story because it’s lame. But I want to share a few thoughts for the person out there who may be struggling to fit in or feel good about themselves because of their sexual identity. If it gets through to one person it’ll be worth it. Besides, I was hired to be the gay blogger, so why not?
National Coming Out Day is grounded in the idea that coming out is the most basic form of activism, and that silence breeds homophobia. It’s an outdated way of thinking but then again, it was founded in the eighties. Today it’s more about being comfortable in your own skin and trusting that those around you are going to love you for who you are no matter who you love. I’m lucky enough to live in an area where if I walked down the street in a dress people wouldn’t think twice. Not that I could, finding a dress to fit a six-foot-five man would be impossible. I have family and friends that love me, and work in an environment full of accepting, hilarious people that encourage me to be myself. That said, I also realize that not everyone has it so good and there are people out there who are legitimately afraid to come out. It’s sad but true.
If that’s you, and you’re reading this, don’t worry. Barstool has your back, I have your back, and any moral person with a brain in their skull has your back. It’s 2017 for Christ sakes, homophobes are a quickly vanishing minority. I hate to be cliche but it’s true- those who matter won’t mind and those who mind don’t matter. And if you’re already out and having a tough time getting your footing, that’s normal. Things will get better.
If this blog sounds like a pity party, it’s not. Believe me, I’m fully aware there are much larger issues facing the world. But it’s important to remember that unfortunately, coming out may be someone’s entire world. Back to the blog.